God’s Will for Your Sex Life

Reading:  1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
    
    Paul transitions here from recounting his history with the Thessalonians to giving them moral instructions.  He wants them to continue “to please God" and to “do so more and more” as they follow the truth he has already taught them (1 Thess 4:1, 2).  He has a specific teaching in mind here:  “For this is the will of God, your sanctification:  that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor”(1 Thess 4:3-4).  God’s will for our sex lives is that we be holy—pure, separate from sin, and devoted to God.  This will involve abstaining from certain things—the kinds of sexual relationships that are off-limits to us—and will demand that we learn to be in control of our bodies and their impulses.  We cannot simply respond to every sexual urge or thought; this is not God’s will.

    We do not live “in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God”(1 Thess 4:5).  Gentiles (people who have no relationship with the true God) allow their lusts to grow without restraint, but those who know God pull back.  There is also a social dimension when we are sexually out of control:  “that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things”(1 Thess 4:6).  When I engage in improper sexual relationships, I hurt others (whether they consent or not).  Paul seems especially to have in mind the damage adultery between brothers and sisters in Christ can do to wounded spouses, the church, Jesus, and even ourselves.  He ominously warns that Jesus will avenge, that this is not our calling (1 Thess 4:7), and that if we ignore this, we are ignoring the gracious God himself (1 Thess 4:8).  

    People sometimes describe Christianity’s sexual rules as repressed and puritanical.  Paul argues that they are really about us being in control of ourselves.  There is strength in knowing that my sexual behavior is honorable, righteous, and loving of others.  I am no longer subject to every passing whim, a slave of my passions.  This is God’s will for me.

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One Thing to Think About:  Why is it so hard to control sexual impulses and behavior?

One Thing to Pray For:  The power and wisdom to control my body in holiness and honor

We Have Been Comforted

Reading:  1 Thessalonians 3:6-13
    
    Paul sent Timothy to discover whether the Thessalonians have remained faithful to Jesus.  “But now that Timothy has come to us from you, and has brought us the good news of your faith and love and reported that you always remember us kindly and long to see us, as we long to see you—for this reason, brothers, in all our distress and affliction we have been comforted about you through your faith”(1 Thess 3:6-7).  Paul breathes a huge sigh of relief.  Timothy informs him that the Thessalonians are still living as disciples—and in fact greatly miss Paul rather than denouncing him.  The tremendous sense of anxiety he has been wrestling with is eased.

    Paul goes on to reveal just how important these brothers are to him.  “For now we live, if you are standing fast in the Lord”(1 Thess 3:8).  He does not literally mean that his life depends on them, but is expressing how tremendously their endurance affects him.  He describes the “joy that we feel for your sake before our God” and explains that “we pray most earnestly night and day that we may see you face to face”(1 Thess 3:9, 10).  Imagine how encouraging these words would be if you were a member of the Thessalonian church—knowing that simply by continuing to try to follow Jesus, you have had such a positive impact on the apostle.  Having described his prayers, Paul includes a prayer that God give them an opportunity to be reunited with the Thessalonians and strengthen them (1 Thess 3:11-13).

    Paul shows us that the Christian religion comes from the heart.  The hardships and suffering we endure are softened when we feel camaraderie with others who suffer alongside us.  We long to know that, despite miles between us and time spent apart, our brothers are still walking with the Lord.  And when we see their faith going strong through the fires, we can say alongside Paul, “we have been comforted.”

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One Thing to Think About:  Do I feel this way about my brothers?

One Thing to Pray For:  To see my brothers face to face and supply what is lacking in their faith (v. 10)

We Are Destined for This

Reading:  1 Thessalonians 3:1-5
    
    Paul continues telling the Thessalonians about his distress when he was “torn away”(1 Thess 2:17) from them shortly after their conversion and wondered whether they continued to serve Jesus.  “Therefore, when we could bear it no longer, we were willing to be left behind at Athens alone, and we sent Timothy, our brother and God’s coworker in the gospel of Christ, to establish and exhort you in your faith”(1 Thess 3:1-2).  Because Paul was such a lightning rod for persecution, he remained in Athens and sent Timothy back to work with the Thessalonians (Acts 17:13-15).  Paul says he “could bear it no longer,” which adds a distinct emotional flavor to otherwise bland descriptions of travel plans.

    His main concern for them is “that no one be moved by these afflictions.  For you yourselves know that we are destined for this.  For when we were with you, we kept telling you beforehand that we were to suffer affliction, just as it has come to pass, and just as you know”(1 Thess 3:3-4).  Persecution and social ostracism are hard for young faith to endure.  Jesus warns about those who receive the word joyfully but fall in time of tribulation and persecution (Mark 4:17).  Yet Paul insists that affliction does not mean something has gone wrong.  Paul both taught and lived the reality of suffering for following Jesus.  So he sends Timothy “to learn about your faith, for fear that somehow the tempter had tempted you and our labor would be in vain”(1 Thess 3:5).  If this hardship destroys their faith, Paul will be devastated.

    Paul’s words underscore two important ideas.  One is that disciples should expect to suffer.  “We are destined for this.”  Paul shows us that we need to understand this personally and teach new believers to anticipate it from the beginning of their conversion.  The other is that this suffering, when poorly endured, can harm or ruin our faith.  This is the reason for Paul’s intense emotions (“we could bear it no longer” and “for fear”).  Hard times are opportunities to shore up our faith and encourage others to be strong.

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One Thing to Think About:  What kinds of afflictions do I endure for following Jesus?  How do they affect me?

One Thing to Pray For:  A heart to “establish and exhort” others in their faith

Satan Hindered Us

Reading:  1 Thessalonians 2:17-20
    
    Shortly after the conversion of the Gentiles, Paul was forced to leave town.  He describes his mindset:  “But since we were torn away from you, brothers, for a short time, in person not in heart, we endeavored the more eagerly and with great desire to see you face to face”(1 Thess 2:17).  Paul was parted from his brothers “in person not in heart” because he continued to think about them, pray for them, and seek to return to them.  He could write letters and send messengers to them, but some matters (like encouragement) are best done “face to face.”

    So if he was thinking about them so much, why didn’t he return?  “because we wanted to come to you—I, Paul, again and again—but Satan hindered us”(1 Thess 2:18).  He does not specify what Satan did to block his return.  Is it the ongoing persecution in Thessalonica?  Is it that plans didn’t work out with logistics, money, or weather?  Is it other responsibilities that overwhelmed Paul?  What we can know is that Paul attributes the delay not to God, but Satan.  Paul insists that this was not his desire:  “For what is our hope or joy or crown of boasting before our Lord Jesus at his coming?  Is it not you?  For you are our glory and joy”(1 Thess 2:19-20).  Time and distance might intervene, but they do not change Paul’s deep love for (and pride in) these new disciples.

    “Satan hindered us” reminds us that Satan is constantly at work inhibiting God’s purposes.  He is behind the persecution of God’s people (Rev 12:10-17).  He is the father of lies (John 8:44).  He has schemes to attack believers in Jesus (Eph 6:11).  Perhaps even unexpected hindrances to our work come from him.  Paul teaches us to acknowledge Satan’s work, but not to let it discourage or overwhelm us.  We serve one stronger than the one who sometimes hinders us.

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One Thing to Think About:  Why is it important to acknowledge that Satan is at work?

One Thing to Pray For:  A deeper connection to my brothers and sisters
 

How to Receive God’s Word

Reading:  1 Thessalonians 2:9-16
    
    Paul continues to recount his initial visit to Thessalonica.  He stresses that when he and Silas came, “we worked night and day, that we might not be a burden to any of you”(1 Thess 2:9), a thought that will become important later in the letter.  He also reminds them “how holy and righteous and blameless was our conduct toward you believers” and how he appealed to them “like a father with his children”(1 Thess 2:10, 11).  Paul is not bragging; he is emphasizing that all his instruction comes from sincere concern.  

    What is impressive is the way the Thessalonians responded to the message.  “And we also thank God constantly for this, that when you received the word of God, which you heard from us, you accepted it not as the word of men but as what it really is, the word of God, which is at work in you believers”(1 Thess 2:13).  When they heard Paul’s message, they did not consider it his words.  They listened for the God behind the message.  They acted as if God were directly speaking to them.  And that word began to “work in you believers” because it is not merely human.  They continued to believe in it even as they suffered persecution from their countrymen.  Paul expresses frustration about the unbelieving Jews who have rejected God at every turn:  killing Jesus and the prophets, opposing Paul and his ministry to Gentiles, and displeasing God.  Yet he also celebrates that despite their opposition, there are still those who receive God’s word well in the midst of hardship (1 Thess 2:14).

    Receiving God’s word well means that we evaluate the message, not merely the messenger.  We can always find fault with people—they are mere “jars of clay”(2 Cor 4:7)—yet they can still carry God’s word to us.  Meanwhile, it is also tempting to merely follow the prevailing winds of our culture:  if others dismiss the message, perhaps we should too.  The Thessalonians are an example to us because they discern God’s word and resolve to follow it despite human opposition.

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One Thing to Think About:  What might hinder me from receiving God’s word well?

One Thing to Pray For:  Comfort and strength for my brothers the world over who face opposition for their faith