Serve Jesus Where You Are

Reading:  1 Corinthians 7:17-24
    
    The gospel of Jesus means change.  Often we hyperbolically declare that “everything must change” when we become Christians.  The Corinthians seem to struggle with this thought—wondering whether following Jesus means that I need to leave my marriage, my job, or be circumcised.  Paul reassures them:  “Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him.  This is my rule in all the churches”(1 Cor 7:17).  And again, “Each one should remain in the condition in which he was called”(1 Cor 7:20).  We don’t have to change everything; we can serve Jesus right where we are.  

    Paul gives examples.  Whatever your circumcision status was when you believed in Jesus, don’t change it (1 Cor 7:18-19).  If you were a bondservant, “do not be concerned about it”(1 Cor 7:21).  If you can be free, do so, but you can serve Jesus right where you are.  “So, brothers, in whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God”(1 Cor 7:24).  The applications to marriage (his topic in this chapter) are obvious:  just stay where you were when Jesus called you, not assuming you need to divorce or get married (see v. 27).  Serve Jesus where you are.

     We must learn to appreciate “the life that the Lord has assigned” to each one of us.  Our lives can seem so boring and ordinary that we believe some radical change is necessary to fulfill our purpose.  Often this thought is born of our own pride and desire for significance.   Serve Jesus where you are, trusting that he has “assigned you" the life that you have.  Paul’s words also caution us against thinking that there is more we have to do or become before God is pleased with us.  Circumcision would not get us closer to God.  Following Jesus as a bondservant does not give us second-class status in the kingdom.  Jesus has already accepted us by obedient faith.  Instead of some dramatic, radical gesture, serve Jesus where you are.

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One Thing to Think About:  What does the “life that the Lord has assigned” to me look like?

One Thing to Pray For:  Contentment with my current state of life
 

A Spouse’s Influence

Reading:  1 Corinthians 7:12-16
    
    Paul is still giving marriage advice.  He has encouraged married couples (presumably those married to Christians) to stay married, but now he writes to “the rest”:  “To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her”(1 Cor 7:12).  Paul gives his personal counsel (“I, not the Lord”) to disciples married to unbelievers.  He encourages them to remain married to such people rather than reflexively divorcing because of the difference in beliefs.  He also acknowledges that the unbeliever’s consent matters (“and she consents to live with him”) and complicates matters.

    What if the unbelieving party is unwilling to stay married?  “But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so.  In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved.  God has called you to be peace”(1 Cor 7:15).  If the unbelieving mate leaves, there is little to be done.  The Christian is “not enslaved” to such a person.  Paul seems to envision us forcing ourselves on a mate who refuses to have us.  Such a course is not required; Paul simply says “let it be so.”  He does not address such a person’s marital options now (as in v. 11), but wants them to have “peace” about the undesired situation.

    Paul’s logic is intriguing.  Christians should stay married to non-Christians because there is tremendous potential for influence.  “For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband.  Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy”(1 Cor 7:14).  And again, “how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband?  Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?”(1 Cor 7:16).  The precise manner in which we make our spouses “holy” is unclear, but the point is obvious:  Christians bless their families.  We show them a higher way to live, we give ourselves to them in love, and we may even save them.  No one will influence us quite as powerfully as our families.  This is a call to be a sanctifying influence on our spouses and children.

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One Thing to Think About:  Am I influencing my mate for good?

One Thing to Pray For:  Strong marriages that bless both parties 
 

Each Has His Own Gift from God

Reading:  1 Corinthians 7:6-11
    
    Paul is responding to the Corinthians’ questions by giving marriage advice.  He suggests that “because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband”(1 Cor 7:2), yet stresses here that this statement is “a concession, not a command”(1 Cor 7:6).  People don’t have to get married to please God or live fulfilled lives.  Paul says that “I wish that all were as I myself am”(1 Cor 7:7), meaning single (v. 8),  yet “each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another”(1 Cor 7:7).  Remaining single and happy is a “gift from God” that not all possess; Paul sees it as a blessing, especially in light of the “present distress”(see v. 26-35).  This is why he advises the “unmarried and the widows” to stay single unless they are unable to control themselves sexually (v. 8-9).  

    Married people, meanwhile, do not have the freedom to choose whether to stay married or be single again.  “To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord):  the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife”(1 Cor 7:10-11).  God wants married people to stay married.  Paul reminds us that it is the Lord (Jesus) himself who gives this instruction.  If divorce does happen (contrary to God’s will), Paul lists the only options as “(remaining) unmarried or else (being) reconciled to her husband.”  Notably absent is remarriage to another.  All of this is building toward Paul’s major point in this chapter:  remain where you were when you were called (v. 17, 24).

    Each one of us has his or her own gift from God.  Rather than viewing singleness as a burden, Paul sees it as a blessing.  Our gifts may involve our talents, relationships, financial states, or personal charisma, but all of them are from God.  Paul wants us to see ourselves as gifted, to give thanks to God, and to use those gifts to honor him.

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One Thing to Think About:  How is this view of singleness different from modern thinking?

One Thing to Pray For:  Wisdom to understand how to use my gifts to please God 
 

Married People Are Not Their Own

Reading:  1 Corinthians 7:1-5
    
    The Corinthians have written Paul asking his advice on certain topics, including marriage.  “Now concerning the matters about which you wrote:  ‘It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman’”(1 Cor 7:1).  I believe that Paul is quoting the Corinthians’ letter here.  Apparently they think that abstaining completely from sex is virtuous, even for the married.  Paul does not agree.  “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband”(1 Cor 7:2).  Complete sexual abstinence will not be possible for all people (1 Cor 7:7) and marriage should not be disdained just because it involves sex.  The Corinthian perspective of total abstinence goes too far.

    But Paul also wants to advise married people about the nature of their sex lives.  “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.  For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.  Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does”(1 Cor 7:3-4).  When we give ourselves to another in marriage, we belong to them in a unique way.  They now have authority over our body, and we theirs.  This has implications for the willingness to have sexual relations in marriage.  “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control”(1 Cor 7:5).  Refusing to have sex with our mates—unless by temporary mutual agreement—violates our promise to them and may lead to temptation.

    Paul has argued that “you are not your own”(1 Cor 6:19) because we have been bought with a price.  Married people are especially not their own.  Their bodies belong to Jesus and to their mates.  Marital sex strengthens the bonds of our commitment to one another and reduces the temptations of Satan.

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One Thing to Think About:  Why might the Corinthians have thought complete abstinence was best?

One Thing to Pray For:  Willingness to cede my rights to Jesus—and my mate 
 

You Are Not Your Own

Reading:  1 Corinthians 6:15-20
    
    The Corinthians are confused about the nature of “sexual immorality,” specifically regarding visiting prostitutes.  “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?  Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute?  Never!  Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her?  For, as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh’”(1 Cor 6:15-16).  Our bodies matter.  They are “members of Christ,” meaning that they are connected to him and used for his purposes.  Part of the issue is that the Corinthians fail to understand the meaning of sex.  When we have sex, we are “joined to” that person in that same “one flesh” relationship that characterizes marriage.  Sex makes big promises.  Fornication is also a unique sin in that we “sin against (our) own body”(1 Cor 6:18), violating the very purpose for our bodies (see v. 13).      

     But Paul is especially emphatic that our bodies are already committed to Jesus.   “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God?  You are not your own, for you were bought with a price.  So glorify God in your body”(1 Cor 6:19-20).  Serving Jesus is not just a mental experience.  It will involve our bodies as well.  Our bodies are “(temples) of the Holy Spirit” who lives in us as a gift from God.  “You are not your own, for you were bought with a price” connects our redemption with our ongoing commitment to live in God’s will.  We are under new management—including the sexual use of our bodies.  

     Paul does more here than say fornication is wrong.  He wants us to think differently about who we are.  Our bodies are Jesus’ members now, ready at his disposal for his purposes.  We are joined to him in both body and spirit.  The Holy Spirit lives within us and we must maintain purity and holiness in his “temple.”  I am no longer my own—setting my own agenda for my life, basking in my own identity and goals, or making decisions that please me.  I am under new management.

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One Thing to Think About:   How can I use my body to honor Jesus?

One Thing to Pray For:  A willingness to flee from evil (v. 18)