Love Hurts

Reading:  2 Corinthians 2:1-5
    
    There is history behind these verses.  At some point between 1 Corinthians and this letter, Paul has made a “painful visit”(2 Cor 2:1) to Corinth in which someone there made attacks on Paul (2 Cor 2:5-8).  (Some suppose this is the incestuous man from 1 Cor 5).  After the visit, Paul wrote a letter prompting the group to act against the man (2 Cor 2:3-4).  Here Paul frankly describes his emotions as the problem unfolded.  “For I made up my mind not to make another painful visit to you.  For if I cause you pain, who is there to make me glad but the one whom I have pained?”(2 Cor 2:1-2).  This is the reason for Paul’s altered travel plans:  rather than the joy of reunion, Paul would find the pain of rejection.  More, Paul is worried about causing them pain by coming (2 Cor 1:23, 2:2).

    He also gives a window into his emotions while writing the letter.  “For I wrote to you out of much affliction and anguish of heart and with many tears, not to cause you pain but to let you know the abundant love that I have for you”(2 Cor 2:4).  Letters (and emails and texts) often veil the true emotions of the writer.  We can come across as stern or cold.  However he may have sounded, Paul wants them to know that he felt “anguish of heart” and that “many tears” soaked the page.  The reason is that he knew his words would pain the ones he loved so much.  He wanted to challenge them, but also to “let you know the abundant love that I have for you.”  Love hurts.

    There is a side of love that our culture often ignores.  Love hurts—not because those we love disappoint us or betray us.  Love hurts because it sometimes involves confrontation, hard honesty, challenge, rebuke, warning, and concern.  When we care about people, we say important things to them even though they may hurt.  Meanwhile, it hurts us to see the effect our love has.  We are caught between the rock of saying what is needed and the hard place of causing pain.  To truly, deeply love, we must embrace this pain.

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One Thing to Think About:  How have I experienced love causing pain?

One Thing to Pray For:  The courage to love others even when it hurts them and me 
 

Yes and No

Reading:  2 Corinthians 1:15-24
    
    Here we get our first indications that some of the Corinthians are unhappy with Paul.  He insists that he has behaved “with simplicity and godly sincerity”(2 Cor 1:12).  The issue is his travel plans: either the plans he had to visit them (1 Cor 16:5-7) or some other plan fell through.  The Corinthians, stung, accuse him of being dishonest; his “yes” is not “yes”(see Matt 5:37).  “I wanted to visit you on my way to Macedonia, and to come back to you from Macedonia and have you send me on my way to Judea.  Was I vacillating when I wanted to do this?  Do I make my plans according to the flesh, ready to say ‘Yes, yes,’ and ‘No, no’ at the same time?”(2 Cor 1:16-17).  Some in Corinth are implying that Paul has lied or is perhaps scared to come see them.

    Paul gives several explanations.  His plans involved multiple visits that just didn’t work out (2 Cor 1:16).  He did not actually commit to coming (2 Cor 1:18).  He defends his honesty, which they have benefited from:  “For the Son of God, Jesus Christ whom we proclaimed among you, Silvanus and Timothy and I, was not Yes and No, but in him it is always Yes”(2 Cor 1:19).  Paul is trustworthy in preaching the gospel; changing travel plans are a different matter.  But the most important reason why Paul did not visit them:  “But I call God to witness against me—it was to spare you that I refrained from coming again to Corinth”(2 Cor 1:21).  He changed his travel plans because he did not want to reopen fresh wounds prematurely, causing “another painful visit”(2 Cor 2:1).

    Jesus teaches us honesty and forthrightness.  He wants us to keep our word.  Yet it is also essential that we not impugn our brothers’ motives simply because plans change.  These verses remind us that even in the time of the apostles and the early church, relationships have always needed patience and maintenance.

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One Thing to Think About:  How can dishonesty hurt others?

One Thing to Pray For:  My “yes” to be “yes” 
 

Burdened Beyond Strength

Reading:  2 Corinthians 1:8-14
    
    2 Corinthians is remarkable for Paul’s willingness to show vulnerability despite significant opposition within the church in Corinth.  Here he opens up about his emotions during a time of great distress.  “For we do not want you to be unaware, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia.  For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself.  Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death”(2 Cor 1:8-9).  It is unclear what Paul’s “Asian affliction” refers to; some identify it with the riot in Ephesus against him (Acts 19:23-41).  Yet he had been certain that he would die because he was “so utterly burdened beyond our strength.”  When Christians feel completely overwhelmed and unequal to the tasks of the moment, we are in good company.

    Yet this is not the end of Paul’s story.  “But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.  He delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us.  On him we have set our hope that he will deliver us again”(2 Cor 1:9-10).  God saved Paul from the immediate danger, quieting all his fears.  He also sees a lesson in the experience:  “to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.”  When we are burdened beyond our strength, God shines.  Paul also requests ongoing prayers (2 Cor 1:11), knowing that this is also a way of relying on the God who controls the outcomes.

    The culture of some Christian churches often involves putting on a brave face and acting as if our lives are completely under control.  We seek to manage others’ impressions of us, fearing judgment or rejection.  Yet Paul shows us that it is entirely appropriate to declare to one another that we are in way over our heads, that we are not in a good place, and that we have a lot to learn.  Only when we communicate our burdens to one another can we pray effectively or bear one another’s burdens.  

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One Thing to Think About:  Am I willing to be vulnerable with my brothers?

One Thing to Pray For:  Reliance on God, not myself
 

Comforted to Comfort

Reading:  2 Corinthians 1:1-7
    
    Paul opens this letter (as the first) with words of kindness and encouragement for the Corinthians, even though he knows all is not well.  Since his last correspondence, he has endured tremendous “affliction”(2 Cor 1:8) yet has emerged from it comforted.  “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God”(2 Cor 1:3-4).  Paul does not blame God for not stopping “all our affliction,” but instead relies on him to give comfort and inner peace as Paul traverses the difficulty.  Why is it that we can endure hardship and slowly adjust to unpleasant circumstances and turns of events?  Paul says that this is part of God’s comfort.

    But Paul is not simply catching the Corinthians up on the news.  His affliction and God’s comfort binds him to the Corinthians.  Since Paul has been comforted, he is “able to comfort those who are in any affliction”(2 Cor 1:3), including the Corinthians.  “If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer”(2 Cor 1:6).  Paul’s harrowing experience is not unique; all Christians suffer in some form for their faith.  Yet Paul emerges from his affliction wiser, stronger, and more at peace—and he can share his perspective with the Corinthians so that they do as well.  It is a chain of comfort:  God comforts Paul, so that Paul can comfort the Corinthians.

    Two powerful ideas emerge here.  One is that God is able to settle our hearts, calm our fears, and give us new hope and direction after our suffering.  This comfort is not just time passing; it is God’s work.  The other is that when God gives us this blessing, he expects us to share that comfort, peace, hope, and strength with others.  We reassure and remind, we sympathize and weep with our brothers, and we together reach out to God for further comfort.  

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One Thing to Think About:  How has God comforted me in my afflictions?

One Thing to Pray For:  The selflessness to comfort my brothers and sisters when they hurt
 

They Refreshed My Spirit

Reading:  1 Corinthians 16:12-24
    
     The end of this letter is a combination of short instructions, greetings, and notes about people known to the church.  Paul is writing from Ephesus (1 Cor 16:8, 19) and has recently seen Aquila and Prisca (1 Cor 16:19) who are there and came from Corinth (Acts 18:1-3).  The teacher Apollos, for reasons Paul does not explain, is not willing to come to see them just yet (1 Cor 16:12).  New Testament churches also often sent greetings to each other (v. 19, 20, 21), reminding us that even as we work through problems together, we remain brothers and sisters in Christ.

     “Now I urge you, brothers—you know that the household of Stephanas were the first converts in Achaia, and that they have devoted themselves to the service of the saints—be subject to such as these, and to every fellow worker and laborer.  I rejoice at the coming of Stephanas and Fortunatus and Achaicus, because they have made up for your absence, for they refreshed my spirit as well as yours.  Give recognition to such people”(1 Cor 16:15-18).  Stephanas and his family were Paul’s first converts in Corinth and he puts in a special word for them.  They “have devoted themselves to the service of the saints”—which implies the meeting of physical needs.  Paul encourages the Corinthians to “be subject to such as these, and to every fellow worker and laborer”(1 Cor 16:16).  We submit ourselves to the good purposes they have to do good for others, especially by working alongside them and contributing to help.  Three of this group have come to Paul and “they refreshed my spirit as well as yours.”  Paul wants this kind of behavior and sacrifice to be admired and imitated.

     “They refreshed my spirit” means that their encouragement buoyed him in a difficult time.  Just as food and drink can refresh the body in desperate circumstances, so our brothers and sisters can rejuvenate our spirits.  We have new energy and courage.  We have a fresh smile and a spring in our step.  We are ready to serve Jesus—and others—anew.

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One Thing to Think About:  Whose spirit will I refresh today?

One Thing to Pray For:  Brothers and sisters who will refresh me